Wisdom Rules in Interpersonal Communication: Mastering Communication and Relationships

 

In interpersonal interactions and daily communication, some seemingly simple rules can greatly influence the quality of our interactions with others and our own emotional state. The following practical points are worthy of our careful consideration and practice.

 

Control Volume and Rhythm

 

Speaking in a lower and slower voice is an art. A loud voice often gives the impression of being unsteady and impulsive. In communication, volume does not enhance persuasiveness; instead, it may trigger the other party's resistance. Speaking softly and slowly not only shows one's calmness and cultivation but also enables the other party to focus more on the content of the words, facilitating effective communication. For example, in business negotiations or when resolving conflicts, a gentle and firm tone is more likely to make the other party accept your point of view.

 

Use Imperative Sentences Sparingly

 

Imperative sentences usually carry a tone of command or demand. Frequent use in daily communication can easily give the impression of being assertive and self - centered, and may also bring unnecessary troubles to oneself. For instance, "You must finish this task right now" is far less euphemistic and appropriate than "If it's convenient for you, could you please finish this task as soon as possible?". Avoiding imperative sentences can make our expressions more amiable and flexible, reducing the potential for interpersonal conflicts.

 

Resist the Trap of Self - Vindication

 

Self - vindication essentially means that when being unjustly questioned, we try to prove our innocence or ability through various means. However, in many cases, this is actually a trap. Constant self - vindication is like denying our original value and stance. When faced with unreasonable accusations, stay calm and there's no need to rush to defend. Over - self - vindicating will only consume our energy and may even make the other party push their luck. Believe that the truth will prevail, and time and facts will often provide the best answers.

 

Don't Mediate Hastily

 

In social situations, when we see others in conflict or awkwardness, we may instinctively try to mediate. However, mediating without principles is sometimes equivalent to devaluing ourselves. If mediating is only to please others and quell surface disputes while ignoring our own feelings and stances, it will put us in a position of being disrespected. We should understand that reasonably maintaining our boundaries is more important than ingratiating ourselves without limits.

 

Treat Interpersonal Relationships Rationally

 

Interpersonal relationships are an important part of life, but not all relationships are worth our time and effort to maintain. For relationships that can get along harmoniously, we manage them with care; while for those relationships that are consuming and bring negative emotions, it's advisable to let go bravely. Not being entangled in relationships that are hard to handle well is a form of liberation for ourselves and also creates space for a healthier and more positive social circle.

 

Interpersonal communication is a practice that requires wisdom and skills. By following these rules, we can navigate interactions with others more skillfully, build sincere and comfortable interpersonal relationships, and better safeguard our inner world.